Tom P's excellent diary on conservative yearning for stories of kind masters summed up a lot of what I've observed in patriarchal families - ones where Father Knows Best.
The kind, benevolent father works to provide for his family. In turn, he expects respect and obedience. He expects his wife to keep his house clean, his children fed. He expects her to maintain her appearance and be a cheerful, co-operative helpmeet. He expects his children to do well in school and excel in sports. He expects them to be tidy and respectful. This what he's due as a benevolent provider. Who can blame him for being angry when reality smacks him in the face? Who can blame him for being afraid of those who don't obey? I can, but he won't listen to me.
